Blue Therapy Postpartum Reality TV Moment: Why Partner Support Matters
Daisy and Jay from the Netflix’s Blue Therapy, where the father leaves shortly after the birth, highlighting the importance of partner support postpartum.
A recent moment on the Netflix reality TV show, Blue Therapy, sparked conversation online when the new father, Jay, left shortly after the birth of his baby to get a tattoo, leaving his partner, Daisy, alone with their newborn for several hours. While situations like this can quickly turn into debates about who was “right” or “wrong,” they also highlight something much deeper: the postpartum period is an incredibly vulnerable time for new mothers.
Watch the Moment Below:
In the short clip below, the couple discusses what happened after their baby was born and why the situation became frustrating for the new mom.
My Thoughts
When Daisy said he left just after the birth of their daughter to get a tattoo and was gone for four hours my heart truly sank. I could only imagine how alone she must have felt, like her needs and the baby’s needs didn’t matter. She had just pushed a baby into the world, and in that moment, she needed support, presence, and care. Even if it wasn’t an emergency, every new mom deserves someone there, holding space for her in those early, overwhelming hours. I felt for her deeply and this was surely not what she imagined her postpartum experience would be.
Why Support from Partners Matter After Birth
The first weeks after a baby is born are some of the most vulnerable for new moms. Physically, the body is recovering from birth and emotions can be up and down. Add in sleepless nights, feeding challenges, and the overwhelming responsibility of caring for a newborn it’s easy to feel isolated and emotionally drained.
Having a support system postpartum is crucial and can make a big difference for a mom’s mental health and overall recovery. A postpartum plan is also essential. Stay tuned for an upcoming blog post all about how to create one.
Father supporting postpartum mom by changing his newborn baby’s diaper, helping share baby care responsibilities and allowing mom to rest.
5 Practical Ways Partners Can Support Moms After Birth
Even small gestures can make a big difference in the early postpartum period. Here are five ways partners can help new moms feel supported, seen, and cared for:
Be Present and Listen
Simply being available and actively listening can make a huge difference. Validate her feelings and avoid minimizing emotions. Sometimes moms just need to be heard.Help with Physical Recovery
Take on tasks like diaper changes, feeding support, cooking, and laundry. Lightening the physical load gives moms the space to rest and recover. Instead of waiting for her to ask, step in and actively manage household chores and baby care.Encourage Rest, Sleep, & Nutrition
Postpartum sleep is critical. Partners can help by doing nightly diaper changes. Handing the baby to a breastfeeding mom prevents her from getting up repeatedly. Having someone take care of the baby for a while allows mom to rest or take naps during the day. A postpartum mom needs at least three hours of uninterrupted sleep.Postpartum nutrition is essential—easy, high-protein hand-held snacks and replenishing meals are a must to keep mom’s energy up and support recovery. This postpartum cookbook has plenty of nourishing recipes for this crucial time.
Support Emotional Health
Pay attention to signs of postpartum anxiety or depression. Encourage self-care, gentle reassurance, and professional help if needed. Postpartum Support International is a wonderful resource. Support for moms and dads can be found through PSI. Mom may need to seek out postpartum therapy.Share Bonding Responsibilities
Engage with the baby through holding, playing, and soothing. This allows the mom to recharge while ensuring the baby still feels loved and nurtured and not all of the responsibility is placed on her.
Take It One Day at a Time
A partner or loved one offers a plate of nourishing food to mom while she breastfeeds, helping her rest and refuel during the postpartum period.
I’d Love to Hear From You
I’d love to hear from you. Have you experienced moments like this in the early weeks postpartum? How did you handle them? Share your experiences and advice in the comments—your perspective could really help other moms feel seen and supported.
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I work with moms located in Missouri and Florida. My office location is in the Cape Girardeau and Jackson, Missouri area.
Helping Moms Across These Areas
Bloom Perinatal Therapy provides compassionate online therapy for moms experiencing postpartum depression, anxiety, birth trauma, and fertility challenges across Missouri and Florida.
We support moms in communities including:
Missouri:
St. Louis, Kansas City, Springfield, Columbia, Cape Girardeau, Jackson and surrounding areas.
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The information shared on this blog is based on personal experiences and general knowledge about postpartum support. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical, mental health, or nutritional advice. Always consult your healthcare provider or qualified professionals regarding any medical concerns or questions
